In A World Of Pointy Fingers

As hard as it is seeing the divisive spirits in the world, how do we manage the immediate challenges in our own lives and relationships?

Can We See Our Way Through?

The world is full of books and podcasts and social media chatter on self-care and self-help and self esteem.

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What is it about the self? And why are these topics so popular and why do they seem so necessary?


The Need to Know and Care for the Self

We are people with bodies and minds and souls that need to be cared for. Within our desire and our responsibility to steward our lives and our bodies, we need knowledge. And we need the wisdom to manage it.


Where do we go for such knowledge and how do we know a source will steer us rightly?


It’s no secret, we the people are naturally self-centered. I don’t have to tell you, because you know that typically our first inclination is to run things through the filter of “how will this affect me?” or “how do I see this?”


Conversely, selflessness is a supernatural characteristic.


It might seem like a stark statement when I say that selflessness can only flow out of the love of Jesus. But it’s true. True love can only come from a vessel filled with true love. Since God is the truth and He is love, we can only truly love out of knowing we are loved by God.


I've lived long enough to see through the smokescreen of my own good intentions.

Even selfless deeds can be done from selfish motives—to puff up self. We do good things to make ourselves look good or feel good.


This is the reason Isaiah says that all our righteous deeds are as filthy rags. Isaiah 64:6


I once was considered a “good girl” but then I found out I was not. My goodness was all about manipulating my world. I’d believed the lie that being loved had everything to do with my performance and how people responded to me. It was exhausting and self-defeating to say the least and landed me in a pit of depression and anxiety.

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God let me experience the fallibility of my own resources, and then He healed me.


The Many Schemes of the Self

  • Manipulation of others or circumstances for self-protection or selfish gain.
  • Anger (manipulates)
  • Deception
  • Being bossy
  • People pleasing
  • Appeasing
  • Compromise
  • Avoiding conflict  
  • Unforgiveness
  • Gossip
  • Slander
  • Mocking
  • Saying "yes" to things you don't have the capacity for.
  • Staying home because you fear exposure and rejection.

The list goes on and on.


Those are just some of the ways we seek slaves or we succumb to slavery.


We Are Slaves And We Seek Slaves

Does that sound shocking? If you’ve ever watched a soap opera, maybe you can think through scenes and see the tendency to manipulate or fall into a doormat mentality. It’s simply the human condition without God.

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When we are not trusting God, we are slave-makers and/or we are slaves who “fear man”.

“The fear of man will prove to be a snare.” (Proverbs 29:25)

Fear of man translates into “looking to flesh for our strength”—This is what the LORD says: “Cursed is the one who trusts in man, who draws strength from mere flesh and whose heart turns away from the LORD.” Jeremiah 17:5

The Curse of Unbelief in God and the Pride of Man

The curse of relying on man for our strength is that we become slaves to men. We might also make slaves of men if we exert our power over another rather than using it to serve God. (Hello, Delilah!)


The whole world has been under this curse since the beginning. There is only One Way to liberty; it is through repentance–turning away from the self and turning to Jesus.


When we turn to Him we are FREE from the curse, and enabled to set others FREE. We no longer need people to serve our whims or to curb our fears. We will no longer require people as our source of strength or validation or salvation. 


You're Gonna Serve Somebody

Bob Dylan nailed it when he sang, “It may be the devil (who manipulates through flesh) or it may be the Lord (who loves through flesh) . . You’re gonna serve somebody.”


The question is, will we manipulate or love?


Who are you serving?

Discernment asks the questions: “Who am I serving?” and “Who are they serving?” —not to guilt, judge and shame, but to remain FREE. 

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Recently, I was assaulted with a public, slanderous accusation. It was so hurtful and alarming that sleep eluded me until I hauled myself out of bed at 1:00 am, and picked up my Bible. Reading about the temptation of Jesus enabled me to see that the devil (accuser) was using the person slandering me to seek to shut me up. The accusation leveled against me was not true, nor was it in a spirit of trust in hope of healing a breach. In the condemning words, there was no desire to understand me or ask me to understand her.


 

How Does A Sinful Self Withstand Another Soul's Slanderous Accusation?

Because we are forgiven by the blood of Christ, we can know that a condemning, shaming voice is not from God. It’s not that we don’t take the accusation before the Lord to see if there is any truth in it. None of us are immune from messing up. Do that. But also, don’t let false guilt eat you up. Don’t let accusation land on you who have been atoned for. Know what Jesus has done for you and who He is to you: your Redeemer and your Friend!


Once I saw the truth, I was released and could pray with mercy for my accuser. “Forgive her Father, for she knows not what she does.” I fell asleep at 3:00am then, resting in God’s mercy.


I share this with you, dear reader, because the spirit of accusation and manipulation is prevalent in our day. Idolatry and sorcery have come to be so common we may not recognize them. As Christians, our need to righty discern is imperative to our walk with the Lord.

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Remaining in God’s love as we continue to walk in truth is our ultimate soul-care. 


Take a Look at Galatians 5

“But I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh. For the desires of the flesh are against the Spirit, and the desires of the Spirit are against the flesh, for these are opposed to each other, to keep you from doing the things you want to do. But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law. Now the works of the flesh are evident : sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality, idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these. I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God. But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law. And those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. If we live by the Spirit, let us also keep in step with the Spirit. Let us not become conceited, provoking one another, envying one another.”  Galatians 5:16-26  (emphasis mine)

Reading the list of the fruits of the flesh . . . enmity, strife, division . . . was like reading Twitter or watching the news! I haven’t watched the news in years due to the way it disturbs my spirit. But, I’ve been watching Twitter to “see” what’s happening in the world — and it might be time to draw that line too.


One can literally see 2 Timothy 4:3 in action—“For the time will come when people will not put up with sound doctrine. Instead, to suit their own desires, they will gather around them a great number of teachers to say what their itching ears want to hear.”ο»Ώ

The Day is Here

This might explain why walking in the Spirit required more of us in 2020 and will continue to be a challenge in 2021.


To bless and not curse. To endure slander, rather than retaliate. To do good to those who hurt us. We will not need self-care or self-help or self-esteem as much as we will need self-control over and over. 


“Who will save me from this body of death; who will help me die to self?” The Lord Jesus! 


We will be tested in this wilderness! But, like Job, “we will come forth as gold” because our Redeemer lives!! 

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Pray for one another like never before! Seek the Lord fervently, and declare His truth with thanksgiving boldly over yourself and your family. 


A Word For Us Today

But you, dear friends, by building yourselves up in your most holy faith and praying in the Holy Spirit, keep yourselves in God’s love as you wait for the mercy of our Lord Jesus Christ to bring you to eternal life. Jude 1:20-21
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