Cast Off Your Anxiety And Let Peace Rule Instead

I attended Northwestern Christian Writers Conference last weekend. This is my second year, and I intended to go more prepared than I had last year. I wanted to bring a “one page” book (actually Bible Study) proposal sheet for my one-on-one appointment with an acquisitions editor. When I signed up with her, my schedule in the months preceding didn’t look all that full.


Life happened. Do you know what I mean?


I spent 45 days advocating for a brother who served a 45 day jail sentence. (Long story I might tell someday) Then my son started a contracting business. His work exceeded his the original plan on a landscape job, and it was my pleasure to help him. (I love working outside in summer.)


Those two major things and others squeezed my time to nil.


I left on Saturday morning with nothing but the intent to gain wisdom during my appointment.


It was scheduled at 11:10, and when the first workshop ended, I glanced at my phone and was startled that it was 11:30. My heart sunk into my belly. Missing your appointment or being late is the one thing you are not supposed to mess up at a writer’s conference.


The woman I had “stood up” was teaching a workshop during the final session. I did not originally intend to go to hers, but as I resisted beating myself up for my failure, I remembered a promise I draw from constantly (I always say that if I could wear a promise out, it would be this one — gladly it’s impossible for God’s promises to ever fail!) Romans 8:28.


“Ok, God. You promise to work all things for good . . . help!


I knew I needed to attend her workshop in order to apologize.


As I sat listening to her fiery message about staying true to scripture as a writer, I was applauding in my heart from beginning to end. At one point, she talked about forgiveness. I smiled at God.


I approached her at the end of the class with my apology, “Hi, I’m the one that stood you up.”


She jested, “So, you’re the one!” And then she assured me it was a nice break for her in a busy day. She had taken the time to check in with her kiddos.


The good God promised? I was free to face my failure, expecting grace. Who knows what else, right? There could be more . . . perhaps she will remember me when I do get my book proposal together for next year’s conference. Perhaps. πŸ™‚ 


Because of Jesus, we are forever free from rejection and from condemnation.
Our freedom allows us to always think of challenges and conflict redemptively.


So often we don’t. At least, not naturally.


In our relationships, we generally have a fervent desire to maintain peace.


But, so often we live in fear of messing up.


The reason we tip-toe around challenginges, is that fear lurks beneath the surface.


This fear comes from a belief that if there is a failure or a disagreement, the person might reject us.


This fear leads to anxiety because we stew over things that need to be dealt with rather than courageously and lovingly approaching the one we want to maintain a relationship with.



What is required?


Trust. Trust in the Lord and His power to help us; trust in His ability to mend relationships, and trust in His power to redeem our failures.


Trust is required in approaching either the one who has offended us (Matthew 18:15,) or the one who we know has been offended by us. (Matthew 5:23-24) In my case, the one whom I had failed.


Name your fear:


Sometimes our fear is over losing the relationship.
Other times, the fear is that a rejection will prove the greater fear that lurks beneath the surface to be true: the fear that we are not valuable. 


Ask me how I know this.


I am the (former) queen of people-pleasing and performance-based acceptance. I said former, but there are residual battles that I find myself fighting constantly. And I know that the battle will rage until I leave this earth, and enter Heaven

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Here is what I have learned:


Oswald Chambers says, “Anxiety is calculating without God.” 


I can face any number of circumstances in a day that cause anxiety. I might be anxious about being late, or failing to get things done on my to-do list. I might be anxious about letting someone down that I’ve had on my heart, but have not had time to contact. I may feel intimidated and anxious about the project I face.


Unless I intentionally turn these anxious thoughts into prayer, they can weigh heavily on my heart and steal the gifts of joy and peace.


What do I need to remember?

Pray always. When I remember to turn my anxious thoughts to prayer, I find ” the peace that passes all understanding there to guard my heart and mind in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 4:6-7) And … I find Him faithful, always.


Have you been allowing your heart to endure anxious thoughts?


You can cast them on Jesus and let His peace rule your heart instead.

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